by Stephanie Olson, Set Me Free Ministries Co-founder
I had the privilege of watching my twelve-year-old daughter in her very first dance competition just the other day. It was a great experience and absolutely nothing like the horrors that the show Dance Moms portrays. And, of course, as a proud mom, I can’t help but share the news that Noel’s dance team won first place overall in their division—great fun!
Yes, we had a lot of fun; however, I walked away a bit disturbed by some of the things I saw that day. Girls as young as eight years old were wearing extremely inappropriate clothing and shaking their “groove thang” in ways an eight year should not even see, let alone do. I was appalled. And although it made me appreciate my daughter’s dance studio and instructors even more for instilling such modesty and technique, it made me remarkably sad for those children who are being so sexualized in our culture today. What are we teaching our children?
I have recently begun going into schools to speak to middle school and high school kids about healthy relationships and abstinence. It has been an incredible opportunity, quite an eye-opener, and even heart-breaking at times. A few weeks ago I spoke to a group of kids who were only a couple of years older than my daughter. One young girl was the mom of a two-year-old, and two of the girls were pregnant.
My heart aches for kids today who see a society that says sex outside of marriage is the norm, that girls have to show a lot of skin to be noticed and/or important, and that we don’t need a God to “tell us what to do.”
Paul tells us this, “I pray that your love will overflow more and more, and that you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding. For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return. May you always be filled with the fruit of your salvation—the righteous character produced in your life by Jesus Christ—for this will bring much glory and praise to God.” (Phil. 1:9-11; NLT)
We are called to live pure and blameless lives. We are called to raise our children to know that they are worth more than the lives society calls us to. If we are in Christ Jesus, we are children of the Living and Holy King. We serve an Almighty and Righteous God, and He sees us as beautiful because we are His.
So, let’s teach that to our daughters. Teach them that they are children of a King. Teach them that they are royalty. Teach them that living a life of purity isn’t boring or uncool. Let’s teach our children that it is an honor to be His.
"Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."
~ Psalm 91:10