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Fifty Shades Of Porn

Lady In Red

by Beverly Brown, Set Me Free Ministries Prayer Coordinator

A friend of mine recently posed a question on Facebook that created a great deal of discussion. The question asked if those reading her post would be seeing the movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. I was surprised and saddened to see the number of women who responded that they had read the book and could not wait to see the movie. There were a few who said they had read the book but were not going to see the movie only because they didn't think the book was that good or thought it was poorly written.

Now, I know that I am quite a bit older than the women who noted they had read the book and were planning on seeing the movie. I recognize that there is such a thing as a generation gap, and I am on one side of that gap and they are on the other. And yet, I also know that there is no generation gap with our Savior. Hebrews 13: 8 reminds us that "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever." And James 1:17 puts it this way: "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows."

When I was growing up, I knew that there were some things that were taboo. Despite the fact that I might not have understood the reasons why, reading "dirty" books or watching "dirty" movies was definitely on the taboo list! Now that I am older, and hopefully wiser, I understand the why.

Perhaps these younger women mentioned above are not aware of the real dangers of pornography, and Fifty Shades of Grey definitely fits into that category. There have been several studies done to show the harm of pornography. Morality in Media lists 22 reasons to avoid porn. 

Adult (>18 years old) exposure to pornographic media is connected with:

  1. Greater acceptance of sex before marriage
  2. Having more sex partners
  3. Rating their partners as less attractive
  4. Being less satisfied with their partners sexual performance
  5. Greater desire for sex without emotional involvement
  6. More sex callousness
  7. Trying to get partners to act out scenes from pornographic films
  8. Increasing their estimates of how often people engage in sex with animals
  9. Increasing their estimates of how often people engage in sex with violence
  10. Increasing their estimates of how often people engage in sex in groups
  11. Going to prostitutes
  12. Greater acceptance of sex outside of marriage for married individuals
  13. More likely to have an affair
  14. Using more sexual terms to describe women
  15. Reduced support for the women’s liberation movement
  16. Less child centeredness during marriage
  17. Reduced desire for female children
  18. Believing that you don’t need to restrict pornography from children
  19. More alcohol use
  20. More binge drinking
  21. Engaging in more behavioral aggression
  22. Engaging in marital rape

http://pornharmsresearch.com/2013/12/talking-points-pornography-and-relationship-damage-research/

I would like to add one more danger to this list — the danger of promoting, although naively, human trafficking. There is a close link between pornography and human trafficking. 

I would like to share what my daughter, Stephanie, posted on this same Facebook post:

As a ministry leader with a love for women, a speaker, and an educator on human trafficking, I have done a lot of research on Fifty Shades of Grey, pornography, and the dangers of both. What is so heartbreaking about this trilogy and the upcoming movie is that this author has created an "acceptable" form of pornography for women. If our men were reading something similar, we'd be incensed. What is more tragic is that I have talked to many women who have read the trilogy and found themselves in some serious bondage (no pun intended) on a spiritual and emotional level. It has negatively affected marriages, the way women see themselves and much more. Pornography is pornography is pornography, no matter how pretty the package. As women, it's critical to know that pornography is a huge contributor to human trafficking. A big business that does nothing but use women, girls, and boys for an ugly profit. Did you know that only about 4-6% of pornographic images/videos are considered "legit?" All others use trafficked victims. I only point that out to say that pornography does nothing (this book and movie included) but perpetuate the idea in our culture that women are sub-human and objects. That's what traffickers count on. Michigan State just did a study on the book. Did you know that women who read the books were more likely to engage in risky behaviors than women who didn't? Behaviors such as: having a verbally abusive partner, eating disorders, multiple partners and binge drinking. We are responsible to protect each other and our children. Taking a part of pornography, no matter how innocent it seems, does exactly the opposite. I only post this because I care deeply about…well…you. As silly as that sounds, it's true. We have incredible value in the eyes of God, let's strive for the same for ourselves and others.

I want to close with this admonition from the Lord, found in Philippians 4:8:

"Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy–meditate on these things."

 

One Response so far.

  1. Carmen says:

    Very well said! 

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